Charles Roy Selmi Jr., 66, of Conway, N.H., passed away on Jan. 28, 2022, after a several-year journey with dementia.
Charles was known by many names, growing up being referred to as Buddy Boy or Buddy, which later transitioned to Bud. He was also known throughout the MWV as Chef Bud. The most important names he answered to, however, were those of Dad and later, Pop Pop.
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