I’ve known Tranifer Lovely, a local artist who identifies as nonbinary, for more than a decade. They used to be the co-host of my movie review show “Lost in Movies,” and were in my wedding party when I got married in 2014.
In honor of Pride Month, I asked them to share their queer journey.
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