Howard Stanten and Erin Wright: Beware of unsolvable relationship conflicts

Most of the conflict in relationships is, and always will be, unresolvable. In fact, John and Julia Gottman (who have been researching this stuff for over 40 years) have found that “69 percent of relationship conflict is about perpetual problems.” Perpetual problems are caused by fundamental differences we have. And, they aren’t likely to change.

So, if you find yourself getting into fights over the same issues over and over again, you’re not alone. The good news is there’s a way to manage this conflict in a much healthier way for your relationship.