Being in the business of helping couples re-energize their relationships, we are fine-tuned to listening for the “B” word. In our own relationship, we have, for the most part, eliminated it. When we hear conversations peppered with the word “but” or it’s sinister twin, “yeah, but,” we know the relationship is not firing on all four cylinders.

One partner frequently using the word “but” often triggers resentment and rejection in the other. It’s a signal that something important, meaningful, and worthwhile is not being heard and acknowledged.

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