I haven’t been on a real date in five years.
I’m talking an authentic date. In case we’ve all forgotten, an authentic date would include eye contact being made as the person invites me out. He's taken care of the details, the what and the where, and once we’ve settled on a when, without even having to ask, he lets me know he's picking me up. A “group hang” or a casual run-in with the person I’ve had my eye on doesn’t count as a date. Neither does a coffee or drink after heavy-handed hints I’ve dropped that we should get together. None of these scenarios passes the bar.
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