(BPT) - More than 41 million Americans are caregivers for aging parents, spouses and other loved ones, and for many, it's becoming part of everyday life. While many new caregivers anticipate helping with medications, doctors' appointments and transportation needs, some of the most challenging parts of caregiving are the everyday responsibilities families rarely talk about — and often feel least prepared to manage.
The 3 a.m. bathroom trip. The conversation neither person wants to have. The hygiene routine that suddenly takes up the whole morning. These daily moments can take an emotional and physical toll on both caregivers and the people they care for.
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