(BPT) - After his life shifted into retirement at 68, John (not his actual name) expected to feel relief.
Instead, after the first few months of feeling open and flexible, his days became harder to navigate. He still exercised, ran errands and kept up with friends. Yet mornings stretched longer, and evenings arrived without much to distinguish one day from the next.
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