Online dating is not reality. All rules and expectations that hold true in real life should be checked at the door when you open your Tinder profile.
Only with that understanding can you be successful at finding love through the interwebs. Before online dating was so prevalent, we met our partners at school, at work; and even if we met them “randomly,” the situation that brings two like-minded people to the same place at the same time is rarely random. Dating in the real world means you inherently have things in common. With online dating, the only thing you have in common is access to the Internet.
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