In 2012, the CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey found that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men in the United States were victims of contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner. This means that whether you know it or not, every day that you are out in the world interacting with others you are encountering survivors of sexual and relationship violence.
They hand you your morning coffee and hold elevator doors for you, send you birthday cards and jog past you on the Back Cove trail. They are among your classmates and coworkers. Your best friend might be a survivor, or your parent, or even your partner.
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