By Wim Laven
I get accused of “being over-the-top” and using hyperbole by conservative friends and acquaintances with increasing frequency. This is caused, in large part, by me being a vocal and active contributor to the public discourse about issues of peace and justice. I am called a “snowflake” for responding to those who support — or even promote — rape culture. My conservative friends say they cannot take me seriously, which is frustrating, but at least it is honest. The question is: How seriously should we consider the statements others make?
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